One of my favourite hadiths about the Prophet has been particularly on my mind in recent months, and it has taught me much. Firstly it is one thing to read words of wisdom, nod our heads in agreement and move on, but it is quite another for us to apply it in the heat of the moment. Still, I think I have managed to do just that, and with surprising results.
Abu Hureira, one of the companions of the Prophet Muhammad, told of a very interesting thing that happened one day. A man came to Muhammad and asked him, "Advise me...". The Prophet replied, "Don't get angry, don't get angry, don't get angry" - Bukhari
وعن أبي هريرة -رضي الله عنه- قال: إن رجلا قال للنبي -صلى الله عليه وسلم-: أوصني. قال: لا تغضب. فردد مرارا قال: لا تغضب رواه البخاري
We all get angry, some of us more than others, and when we do we say things that hurt the other person. The truth is, I think the reason angry people try to hurt the other is to make them feel the same pain. Of course it isn't often seen that way, but that's what it is. It took me a long time to understand this process, but when I did it became easier to rewrite it mentally so that even if a person has wronged me (in my opinion) I stay calm, forgive, and leave my door wide open. All problems can be overcome when people calm down, forgive each other and purify their hearts. I strongly recommend listening to the Prophet, this guy knows things.